Couples – especially those who have been married for many years – rarely have a relationship that is all good or bad. Because of the inherent complexity of marriage, it can be very difficult to weigh the pros against the cons and make the decision to cut ties with your spouse. While the decision to get divorced is ultimately up to the spouse or spouses in question, and while many relationships are full of nuance and uncertainty, there are certain behaviors that experts say nearly always indicate divorce is in the future. If you read this list and believe any of these signs apply to you, consider meeting privately with an Illinois divorce attorney.
Physical Abuse
This can be one of the easiest behaviors to walk away from, yet also one of the hardest. People who physically abuse their spouse often feel extreme guilt and sorrow for their behavior, and try to make up for the abuse by being exceptionally loving, caring, and charming after abusive incidents. Nevertheless, abusers rarely change their behavior in the long run, and staying with a physically abusive partner could seriously endanger you and your children.
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse can be much harder to identify, especially if your spouse is highly intelligent and manipulative. You may feel for many years as though any abuse you suffer is your fault and that you even deserve it. Yet emotional abuse can make for a miserable marriage devoid of intimacy and caring; if your partner is emotionally abusive, it may be time for divorce.
Emotional Unavailability
Perhaps your partner is not emotionally abusive and would never dream of hitting you, but never quite seems to be present, either. If your spouse always seems distant, unconcerned, distracted, or looking forward to the next best thing, you may be left feeling isolated, lonely, and abandoned. Emotional unavailability is another condition that is not likely to improve over time, so it is important to be honest with yourself about how long your spouse has neglected your marriage.
Substance Abuse
Spouses often hide substance abuse issues for many years, especially if they are high-functioning. However, if you know that your spouse struggles with substance abuse and is unwilling to get the help they need, it is often better to exit the marriage before the abuse escalates to the point where it drives the family into danger or poverty.
Total Lack of Drive
Not everyone needs to have a high level of ambition and drive to succeed in life. A general commitment to working hard, caring for one’s family, and being financially responsible is enough to keep a family financially stable and happy. However, if your spouse seems to neither know nor care what their future holds, cannot keep a job, or consistently blames other people for their problems, you will have a hard time keeping your family together long-term.
Call a Hinsdale, IL Divorce Attorney
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/sexual-futurist/202207/5-great-reasons-get-divorce