When two people get divorced in Illinois, their lives irrevocably change forever. This is even more true when the couple getting divorced has children. If you are getting divorced with children, you may be wondering whether your children will have a role in the divorce proceedings. Let us be perfectly clear: your children should not be involved in your divorce, as the emotional rollercoaster that engulfs many divorces will likely be too much for your children to bear. Your primary goal should be protecting your children from the nastiness of divorce, not making them more involved in the process. Discuss with your lawyer the ways you can protect your children as you move through your divorce.
Emotions in Divorce
Many adults make the mistake of thinking that their divorce and its effects will only be between them and their spouse, not the children. This is far from the truth. The effects of divorce can easily seep into the psyche of a child, especially if they somehow become involved in the divorce process. Children may feel torn between their parents, experience guilt, or blame themselves for the divorce. Protecting children from the legal aspects of divorce can help protect their emotional well-being and allow them to focus on their growth and development.