Each year, when the clock strikes midnight on December 31, people around the world celebrate the ending of the year and welcome in the new year. One of the most popular traditions that is observed for New Year’s is making resolutions to improve yourself and your life. For some people, this may mean quitting smoking or eating healthier and exercising more. If you are going through or have recently finalized your divorce, there is no better way to start your new year than by making it a priority to be happier and healthier than ever before.
With just a few weeks left in 2020, it is not too early to start thinking about how to make 2021 better for yourself and your children. Here are a few New Year’s resolutions that you can commit to in the wake of your Illinois divorce.
Resolution #1: Pick Your Battles
Fighting with your ex is exhausting. For many couples, divorce means constant arguments and opposition about nearly every aspect of the life they once shared. The divorce is probably not even the beginning of the fighting. You have most likely been arguing with your spouse about trivial things—and non-trivial things—for years. In the coming year, try to be more selective about your battles with your ex. If you feel an argument about to erupt, try to determine whether or not the fight is worth it. Chances are that things will be easier and you will be happier if you just refuse to fight.
Resolution #2: Make Your Children a Priority
Every parent wants what is best for their child, and this means making sure that they are put first in nearly every aspect of your life. Divorce is hard for everyone, but it can be especially difficult for your children, so in the new year, you can make an additional effort to meet their needs, spend time with them, discuss their feelings about the divorce, and remind them that you will always be there for them. Whatever you do, you should make sure your children know that they are your top priority and that they are loved very much.
Resolution #3: Focus on Your Own Well-Being
While putting your children’s needs before your own is not a bad thing, it can sometimes cause you to neglect your own needs and well-being. In order to be a good parent, you need to make sure that you are taking care of yourself, both physically and mentally. As the new year begins, make it a habit to set aside some time each week to relax and clear your mind. Whether you are going out with friends or simply taking a bubble bath, doing something for yourself can help you maintain a good attitude and focus on a positive future.
Contact a McHenry County Family Law Attorney For Valuable Guidance
Going through a divorce is tough, and so is building a new life after your divorce. At Botto Gilbert Lancaster, PC, we understand the challenges you are likely facing, and we are equipped to help. Contact one of our experienced Crystal Lake divorce attorneys for assistance. Call 815-338-3838 for a free consultation today.
Sources:
Top 10 Difficult New Year’s Resolutions for Divorced Parents
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/9-new-years-resolutions-for-the-newly-divorced_b_8864318