Even when a divorce is mutual, the two people involved can become adversarial towards each other. Things can quickly change during a divorce case, and one side may start acting purely out of anger and frustration. When this is the case, it is important that you protect yourself by properly communicating with your spouse. This can prevent something as simple as a conversation from becoming used as evidence against you in your case.
Text and Email Whenever Possible
Using text and email during a divorce case can provide you with valuable evidence. These forms of communication will verify that you and your spouse have come to an agreement on a certain issue, or they can prove that the other side is abusive. Many people think that communicating by text or email is less personal, but this is exactly what helps keep hurt feelings out of conversations.
Do Not Always Reply Right Away
The other benefit of communicating by text or email is that you do not have to respond right away. During a divorce, something is bound to be said in the heat of the moment, particularly when discussing contentious terms such as child custody. Taking some time to cool off and think about how you should reply can be very beneficial, and help you get what you want in the end.
Only Discuss the Topic at Hand
Even in the most amicable divorces, spouses still sometimes want to make allegations against the other person and bring up every misdeed done during the marriage. This is a fruitless endeavor and may even end up hurting your case. If you and your spouse must talk about a topic, only address that subject during the conversation. If they continue to bring up other topics, refuse to address them and politely tell them that you will only speak about the matter at hand, no matter how many times they try to shift the conversation to another topic.
Even if your spouse will be part of your life once the divorce is finalized, such as if you have children together, they will not play the major role they once did. It is important to set boundaries as soon as possible with your spouse. Let them know that you will respond to their texts and emails when you have time, and also politely refuse to answer any questions such as what you did on the weekend. As sad it may be to adjust to, you and your spouse will not be a major part of each other’s lives, and knowing too much can only lead to feelings of hurt and anger.
Communicate Through an Illinois Divorce Lawyer
Sometimes, the best way to ensure conversations between you and your spouse do not negatively affect your case is to communicate through a skilled Hinsdale divorce lawyer. This is particularly true in cases that have become contentious. If you are going through a divorce, our attorneys at the Law Office of Martoccio & Martoccio are here to help. We will assist you with every aspect of your case, from ensuring you secure the best terms possible, to advising you on how to protect your rights at all times. Call us today at 630-920-8855 or contact us online to schedule a free consultation.