Getting a divorce is a stressful and confusing time. Without knowing what to expect, you could end up in a lengthy court battle, and spend way more than you have to. If you are considering divorce, or the process has already started, check out the eight tips below that can help you get through it.

Forget Fault

Illinois is a no-fault divorce state, which means neither of you has to prove drunkenness, infidelity, or any other type of fault. If possible, it is important not to focus on who was at fault, as this can lengthen the divorce and will make the process more challenging and stressful.

Agree Whenever Possible

No one expects anyone going through a divorce to be agreeable all of the time. However, it is important to know which battles to fight, and which ones to avoid. Determine what is most important to you and hold firm on those terms while compromising on the rest.

Prepare for the Cost

Divorce is expensive, but it is important to remember that it is also going to cost more for you to live on your own than it was to live in the same house as your spouse. Prepare a budget and remain realistic about those costs so you do not find yourself in financial hardship afterward.

You Cannot Keep Your Children from Your Spouse

Unless there is an extreme situation, such as domestic violence, your former spouse will probably still get to spend time with the children, even if you are unhappy about it. Always remain willing to work with your former spouse in regards to co-parenting so post-divorce it is easier for not only you but also your children.

Be Realistic About the Time

In the best of situations, which is when two people can agree on terms such as property division and there are no child custody issues, a divorce may take six to eight weeks to finalize. Realistically, however, most divorces take at least a few months and some even take years.

Consider Your Options

You do not have to go through litigation to get a divorce and in fact, few people do. Mediation and collaborative law divorces are both good options that can help you shorten the time it takes to get divorced, and keep your costs down.

Parents Forever

Just because you and your former spouse are no longer married, you are still parents to your children. Do not fight with your ex and never speak badly about them in front of the kids. Doing so will only cause your children to suffer.

Call an Illinois Divorce Lawyer

It is not mandatory that you work with a dedicated Hinsdale divorce lawyer, but it is strongly recommended. An attorney will understand the law and how to negotiate with the other side to get you the best terms possible throughout the divorce process. If you are considering divorce, call our experienced attorneys at the Law Office of Martoccio & Martoccio. We will provide the legal advice you need and help ensure your divorce is finalized as quickly as possible. Call us today at 630-920-8855 or contact us online to arrange a free consultation.

 

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http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/ilcs/ilcs4.asp?ActID=2086&ChapterID=59&SeqStart=6000000&SeqEnd=8300000