It is not enough to wait until after your divorce is over to decide on your post-divorce goals. You should already know what your primary goals are before you start the divorce process so that you can negotiate your divorce with those goals in mind. Once the court has approved your divorce agreement, it will be difficult to modify it if you realize that you missed an opportunity for your agreement to help you achieve a goal. A skilled divorce attorney and a divorce coach can help you identify your divorce goals and plan for how you will achieve them.
Most people have a vague idea about what they want from their divorce, but you will be most successful during your divorce if you have specific and quantifiable goals. Saying that you want a “fair share” or a “reasonable agreement” does not tell you how to recognize whether you are achieving your goals. It is more helpful to say that you want:
- Specific properties from your marriage
- A percentage of your marital assets
- A number of hours with your children each week
You can most accurately quantify your divorce goals by consulting with your divorce lawyer and figuring out what you need.
Identifying Your Goals
Creating divorce goals starts with answering important questions about what you want your life to look like after your divorce:
- Are you capable of being financially independent of your spouse?
- If not, how much financial support do you need?
- Do you plan to relocate or find a new job?
- Which properties are most important for you to keep, including your home?
- What parenting arrangement would be best for your children?
There may be other important issues that are specific to your case that you need to consider. Answering these questions will help you understand what you need from your divorce. If you are financially dependent on your spouse, you may need to prioritize receiving spousal maintenance and key marital properties. If you believe your children will be best served with you as the primary parent, you need to emphasize why this is the case during your divorce.
Contact a St. Charles, Illinois, Divorce Lawyer
Most divorcees have the same general goals from their divorce: attaining long-term financial security and, if they are a parent, remaining an active part of their children’s lives. However, the path to reaching that goal is different for each person. A Kane County divorce attorney at Goostree Law Group can map out your path to achieving your divorce goals. To schedule a free consultation, call 630-584-4800.